15 Oct 2015

Various Reasons for Addiction


Those who are the most loved, are usually the ones who are also the most settled, stable, and lead happy lives.  Unfortunately, not everybody is lucky enough to be counted in this group of people.

Many of us, go through suffering at some stage in their lives, and this has a detrimental effect on their minds, bodies, and souls.  In this post we will look into one of the effects caused by bad experiences in people's existence, which is addiction.

People get addicted because they are looking to fill the emptiness that they feel inside, or are trying to get away from a bad reality.   Children who have been physically/mentally/sexually abused grow into insecure adults with low or no self esteem. They may have no actual memory of the abuse because they hide those terrible memories in a box in their head, which they lock very securely, just to make sure they will never remember those anguishing times, and that they will never have to deal with the pain again..

They just feel completely worthless without knowing why. They just have the words as a voice in their head of what their abusers told them. Things they were told include that they are stupid, liars, will never amount to anything, ugly, or if they weren't so attractive they wouldn't have been abused, and nobody will ever love them; and they have been used not to be allowed to have an opinion.

So, they have now grown up into adults who believe they are either ugly, or that by being attractive they are in danger; the latter ones will also be likely to put on weight to protect themselves. They are so scared of failing that they would never put themselves in a situation where in their own minds they might fail.

As they don't trust themselves, and never had the practice, they can't make decisions so are easily influenced by other people and often become completely dependent on them; as they feel unloved.  Although they don't trust it, they are desperately looking for approval and a family to belong to.

Unfortunately this means being further manipulated and controlled, which makes that voice in their head repeat the words of their abusers, to have even more power.

To make themselves feel better, and being easily swayed by stronger personalities, or just wanting to fit in, they try drink or drugs, which helps them feel wonderful. Unfortunately they wake up later and this wonderful feeling has gone, and they now feel even worse. They need more of it to get that first feeling, which starts the downward spiral of addiction.

People with low self esteem display this by being shopaholics, workaholics, alcoholics, drug addicts, sexaholics, compulsives, anorexics, and bulemics. They are all trying to feel better or numb the pain.

If this is you, we will discuss in a later post how you can improve your situation, get rid of addiction, and start leading a "normal" and happy life.  If, instead, you know someone who has some form of addiction, we will also discuss how you can help them stop their suffering.

12 Oct 2015

Ensuring Healthy and Happy Relationships

Camiguin: The horizon

Relationships are supposed to be the best thing that happens to us in this earthly life.  Finding a soulmate that shares our path, gives us love, and appreciates our love, a shoulder to cry on, a rock to lean on, that makes us stronger, and fulfilled is truly a gift.

However, relationships can so often, and tragically, turn into alienating experiences and re-shape our life, and perspective, and our sense of self-worth in the most destructive ways.

There are, however, a few things we can do to check that our relationships turn out to be better than we could ever have dreamt, instead of into our worse nightmare

First, and foremost, a good relationship goes far beyond attraction, and it is necessary to actually LIKE the person as well. NEVER have to excuse their behaviour or accepting blame for their failure to return our love appropriately, or for their inability to behave in a loving and considerate manner.

A good relationship is based on frank and open exchange of opinions, and being prevented from doing so is always a resounding alarm bell.   This can cause us to become stuck into a relationship for fear, instead of love.  It is better to be alone, than to be in an abusive and threatening situation.  After all, being alone means having the choice of someone else.

Being ALLOWED to be with friends and family is also essential.  Although a couple is meant to be together, it is also composed of two individual, each with their own lives, wants, and needs, which include one's own family and friends, if so desired by the individual.  While constructive criticism of our life choices can be productive, there is a difference when someone is constantly critical of your nearest and dearest, and of our life choices. 

Lastly LISTEN if your friends and family don't like them. It could be that they don't want you to spend all your time away from them, in which case you are perfectly within your right to ignore their opinion.  However, they might also be expressing their concern at how you are being treated, in which case it is definitely in your interest to heed their advice.

Be aware of how a Manipulator/Abuser operates. They will choose an insecure person who is so grateful for the attention that they will hang on their every word. To start with they will be wonderful to be with making the victim feel so protected, making all the decisions:-

What they should wear, ordering for them in restaurants, what the victim should cook and at what time.

However, the risk is that they will, gradually, isolate the victim from their nearest and dearest, or stop them from pursuing their interests, saying that they only need each other. The Manipulator doesn't want anyone around to give support to the victim, or to have their own outlet, after all their hard work to brainwash them. 

If that happens, the victim will grow eventually to think that they are deeply loved and anything done or said is for their own good.  This is when acceptance of abuse becomes entrenched, and at its most difficult to escape.  The victim will also be made to believe that nobody would want them. 

Love is about freedom, understanding, exchanges of bodies, minds, souls, and emotions, in which both partners are equally strong, and equally vulnerable.  Anything else is not worth pursuing.

If any of the above is familiar to you please realise THAT NOBODY WHO REALLY LOVED YOU WOULD EVER TREAT YOU LIKE THIS.

Don't be afraid to be alone, do not question your worth.  Allow someone else in your life who will love you, accept you, and make you stronger than you ever imagined you could be.

The dark side

Full moon in sagittarius

As I was reading an interesting, albeit bleak, article the other day about the dark forces trying to take over the world (see The Inter-Dimensional Entities Behind the Dark Agenda That’s Taking Over the http://www.wakingtimes.com/2013/12/25/inter-dimensional-entities-behind-dark-agenda-thats-taking-world-2/), I thought it is important to touch on the subject on this website, which is primarily concerned with Spiritual development.

We cannot fail to notice these dark forces at work in our daily lives. Wars, corruption, abuse, hunger, pain, suffering, and despair are plain for all to see; and we may at times experience the brunt of evil ourselves.

This subject was already touched upon in a previous article (see http://www.spiritualsoul.xyz/2015/06/the-struggle-of-spiritual-soul.html). It is probably a subject worth delving deeper into, but in this specific post, I wanted to mention the effects, and perils, that these dark forces have in their spiritual form, rather than in the human form.

Once we set forth on our Spiritual journey, we will reach a point where our soul will prevail over our minds, and we will start walking the path of righteousness, for lack of a less intimidating word.

As we reach this stage, we will be fairly safe from the negative effects of dark, or evil if we want to call them so, spirits. Thanks to the law of attraction, when our light shines brightly, we will only attract spirits that dwell in the light too, and we will repel anything that doesn’t vibrate at a similar or higher frequency than that of our soul.

Personally, I have always believed that, unless one has a specific calling to deal, and fight, with dark spirits, we do not need concern ourselves with them. The light of our soul is sufficient to break the darkness, and it is a great contribution in the fight of good versus evil. The brighter the light that shines in the darker realms, the more the dark entities will be attracted to the light.

However, it is exactly when we cross this line in our Spiritual development that we will attract the interest of the darker spirits. As they see us shining bright, they will become concerned about the loss of darkness in their planes of existence, and about the reduction in their numbers, caused by any new powerful beam of light.

They can’t really touch us, or our souls, while we shine brightly, so they will use different tactics, and I would like to share my experiences, hoping that it may help others recognise the signs, and counteract their effects.

To explain this, I will first touch on where the light comes from. The light certainly comes from within, from our souls. It is like a powerful torch, a beam that envelops and surround us, and brightens the way on our spiritual path. However, like all torches, it does need to be charged. The more often it is charged, the brighter it shines.

The way we charge it is by connecting to the Life Force, to the Source, or as some may call it, to God. We can feel when we are connected as an energy that comes, or a light than aims directly, to the top of our skull, known to many as the crown chakra. We can feel when we are connected to it as a tingling at the top of our cranium, or some may feel a pulsating energy, at varying degrees, of the top of their heads.

This is the connection to Spirit, to the Source, it is what enables us to communicate with out Guides, our Higher Selves, and God. It is the connection to awareness, knowledge, understanding, insight, inspiration, all that is, all that has ever been, and all that will ever be. It is the Life Force, the Source of Love, and the Power of Change.

When dark spirits want to interfere with our Spiritual development, they envelop us in an impenetrable darkness. A darkness that stop this connection, and that hampers our communication with the higher, and brighter, planes of existence. This connection, is then replaced with a connection to the darker side, and communication starts from there.

At first, we will be unaware of this. We will still feel a connection, and we will still receive information. We will continue to shine, for a while, as a candle in the darkest night.

However, this connection will not give the usual light and energy to which we are accustomed. And the messages we receive will stop being enlightening, and soothing, and full of joy and love. They will slowly make us feel angry, resentful, sad, pitiful, and eventually bring darkness to our souls.

This will be such a gradual process that we may not even be aware of it to start with. We will eventually find ourselves wondering where has our energy gone. What has happened to us? We will still feel that there is a connection, there is communication, but this will not be as satisfying, fulfilling, wondrous, or energising as it has always been.

The longer this continues, the dimmer our light within will become, and the greater the negative energies surrounding us, until we become part of the darkness, and subjected to the dark forces.

At least this is the intention of the dark spirits. The more lights they extinguish, the darker the ethereal realms, the greater their numbers.

There is hope for us, however, as there is hope for the entities that live in the darkest spaces of the spirit world.

The Light is always there. It is praying for us. It is willing for us to reach out for it. It is stretching its loving hand, trying to catch us, to help us through the darkness. It is however conscious of free will, and it will wait for us to make the first move. After all, we can choose the darkness if we so wish, that is entirely up to us.

To get back into the light, all we have to do is to delve profoundly into the depths of our soul, and call out for it. That works like the flare used by shipwrecks’ victims, stranded in the loneliness of a desert island; it breaks the darkness, and opens a door for the light to reach us, and dig us out of our hole.

It is, however, important, to recognise the signs as early as possible. To understand that we have become victims of manipulation. It is the same as our physical beings being entrapped in an abusive relationship; the longer we stay in it, the more difficult it is to get out. And the more we are aware of what is “right”, and what is “wrong”, the easier it will be to identify our position.

We are beings of Light in any event, and being in the Light is the only place that will feel completely, absolutely, and unequivocally right.

4 Oct 2015

Different Ways to be Psychic

Everybody has the ability to be psychic. We all have gut instinct, intuition, or spidey senses which are all psychic information. Just building up trust each time we are right about what we know helps us to develop our psychic abilities. 

We can get information in two ways, one is by picking up energies, such as residual energy left in a place, or connecting to someone's aura.  In this way we can pick up events that have happened in a certain place, or even understand animals and plants, or can be aware of what happened to a certain person, what they feel, or what they wish for.

Another way is to get information from Spirit.  Spirit are more aware than us of what is happening, and they are less tied to time and space than we are, so the information that we can get from them is much more detailed, in-depth, and can even include glimpses of the future.  

There are many ways in which we can get information, but below are the most commonly known and used ways that we get our information.  When we read energy, we mainly use clairsentience, the others, including clairsentience, are when we communicate with Spirit:

This is seeing and hearing spirit very clearly just like they would see and hear you. This can work either subjectively, inside your head like a film and hear by thoughts,  memories and ideas, or objectively, which when you see them outside of your head, like seeing orbs, or people standing in front of you.  When seeing objectively, however, communication still takes place subjectively, i.e. in your head. 

This is getting messages from spirit not necessarily knowing the background information about them. The messages received by Spirit are usually for someone alive, a friend or a loved one as Spirit miss the living as much as the living miss those who have passed away.

This can either be by picking up energy, such as an aura, or a residual energy, or by feeling spirit, picking up on how people are feeling, how people felt a long time ago and feelings like they are angry and tired. I have a friend who cannot go sightseeing because she feels everything that has gone on there and it makes her feel sick. I just have information of the ruin and so I know and see in my head what went on. These people tend to have some emphatic ability too, so they gather all the feelings of others and often think that they are their own. There will be another article about how to deal with this.

This is when we hear spirit clearly, or as in my case thoughts and information in my head.

Some people have all these abilities, and more, while some just have one or two.